Relationships…one of the hardest discussions. Relationships are complicated and messy but beautiful at the same time. I know personally I have struggled and still do but here are some helpful tips I would like to give you!! I got all the verses and tips from myself, friends, and people from all over. They help me and I love sharing them with you.
Verses for Relationships:
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)
Seek God first and your partner second. Base your relationship on God therefore both of you going to God first and Him as the foundation. This will bring your closer and allow you to receive blessings. (Triangle Theory)
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Mark 10:9)
Relationships are hard but if this is a relationship designed by God, we can get through it. Don’t let your flesh bring fear and you run. Don’t let the normalcy of the world bring divorce and destruction. Let God heal the relationships.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:2-3)
Keep God the center of every relationship. Both people in the relationship need to keep their focus on God and better themselves as Christians to have a thriving relationship. Make God the foundation.
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” (1 Corinthians 15:33)
Date someone who does not make you compromise who you are. Also, don’t be around people that can ruin your relationship. Have friends that encourage and pray for your relationship. Have good couple friends that are involved in what you are.
Do everything in love. (1 Corinthians 16:14)
When things get hard in the relationship acting in love gets hard but that is what we should do. No spite. Also, don’t do things for recognition, do it in love with a servant heart expecting nothing in return. Choose to love.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
Once you are in the relationship (especially marriage) you are not in this alone. Know that in some areas you need help and they will be your support. Your significant other is your support and holds you when you are strong. When you are in it, you are together as one.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
Replace your significant others name where love is and make sure the qualities fit. Then make sure your name fits in the place of love as well. If not, pray and ask God to help in the lacking areas and to provide guidance.
Advice from a Guy:
Be confident in how God made you
- Remember your self worth is found in Christ Jesus!
1 Peter 3:3-4 - “It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from within you- the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never be destroyed and is very precious to God.”
- When you respect yourself and your love for the Lord shines, you become even more attractive.
Eliminate distractions.
Be together when you are together.
Phones especially need to be eliminated.
Remember to listen
Even if you don’t understand the problem the other is having respect them and listen anyways.
James 1:19 “know this, beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”
PRAY.
Before. During. After. Pray during joyous times and pray during hard times. Pray before you date and for who you date.
Communicate.
You get nowhere without it. They can’t read your mind.
Advice from a Girl about Relationships:
Date to marry.
Don’t be with someone you can’t imagine marrying.
Make the list of qualities for the husband you desire and don’t settle.
Just as the Bible says what a woman should be in Proverbs 31, we are to look throughout the whole Bible and see the Godly examples around us and know the kind of man you need. Make a list- a serious list of qualities- and don’t settle. Too many times we do and get tired of waiting but our man is out there.
Be forgiving.
Everyone is forgiving.
Spend time with Christian couples.
Especially if they are in a similar season as you or went through it. Grow through and with it. Community is so important.
Be consistent.
Trust me, guys need it.
The grass is always greener where you water it!!
Don’t be so full of pride and be thankful for all moments in it. Flourish in your relationship. Grow in it and be full of joy.
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